Own moments of jealousy: Often feelings of jealousy cause us to become irritated, start arguments, or act passive-aggressively rather than directly address what is troubling us. When you name your problem, you are taking the first step towards a solution
Try looking at your relationship objectively: How would a stranger react to your issue? Removing personal bias lets you see issues more clearly and prevent arguments.
Focus on the positive: Instead of jumping to conclusions give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Consider the length of your relationship and all the wonderful aspects you have together. Flirting is harmless, unless affections are returned and go further.
Feelings of jealousy are fleeting. You can be afraid of something bad happening, it doesn’t mean it actually will occur. Just because you suspect your girlfriend is smooching on other people, doesn’t mean they aren’t laying awake every night thinking about the next time they will get to see you. Unless you have proof of an affair, keep calm. If you are still upset, calmly discuss your concerns with your partner.
Understand the roots of your jealousy: Jealousy doesn’t arise spontaneously. If you are doubting your partner, consider why these thoughts are coming from. When you can process what is leading to these feelings your can begin to heal and improve your love.
Accept, but just observe, your jealousy: What you are feeling is just that, a feeling. You don’t have to act on it. Simply naming your feeling can help you begin to feel calmer, rather than reacting to it and creating longer lasting problems.
Release baggage that is unrelated to your relationship: No one should have to pay for the sins of another. So what if your ex, or your mother, was a cheater? That doesn’t mean your partner will cheat on you. Saddling them with the same faults of a person that hurt you, will only cause both of you more pain in the long run.
Believe that you are worthy of love: Often we act out in jealousy because we have convinced ourselves that we are unworthy. Unworthy of love. Unworthy of happiness. Undeserving of our partner. That simply isn’t true. No matter your flaws and limitations, you are wonderful and worthy of having a supportive and committed partner. Never let a mental gremlin think a boy she might have winked at is any cuter than you. You are a ten out of ten, don’t you ever forget!
